Fuck that. Everytime I call my mom, she only disencourages and brings me down. She is the best mom, but her life experiences were too bad for her to ever push me in the right direction. I only want to tell her what I’m doing, but hate every second she gives me advice on it because her prespective and life experiences are horrible.
For example, she forced me to stay working at the worst minimum-wage slave jobs you could imagine, and if I told her I would kill myself if I stayed one more day in this job, she would tell me about how they used to clime uphill to school when she was a kid and live without electricity and had a child by 15, and drove 6 hrs to work for $200 salary… for fuck sake mom… no.
My life has turned so much for the better as soon as I stopped taking that from her. I know no one in existance could or ever would love me like her, but I should not take advice from her.
It was difficult to accept but after talking with a therapist, and years of being discouraged every time I talked to her, I made the same realization and stopped telling her about most of my life. Everyone is much happier if we don’t talk about this. Otherwise she will tell me I took all the wrong decisions and that I should have stayed miserable because that’s how it works.
She (and all of her family) is afraid of pretty much everything. So as soon as you can secure a job, you keep it; for life! Even if it destroys your body or your mental, you have a job so keep it! Don’t go to school, it’s just a waste of money. Don’t look elsewhere because it’s not going to be better anyway. It’s even causing conflict in her family because one of her sister is a nurse and is “too educated”. They consider her snobbish.
It’s my mother, I love her, but I can’t tell her anything or it’s going to be worse for both of us.
Fuck that. Everytime I call my mom, she only disencourages and brings me down. She is the best mom, but her life experiences were too bad for her to ever push me in the right direction. I only want to tell her what I’m doing, but hate every second she gives me advice on it because her prespective and life experiences are horrible.
For example, she forced me to stay working at the worst minimum-wage slave jobs you could imagine, and if I told her I would kill myself if I stayed one more day in this job, she would tell me about how they used to clime uphill to school when she was a kid and live without electricity and had a child by 15, and drove 6 hrs to work for $200 salary… for fuck sake mom… no.
My life has turned so much for the better as soon as I stopped taking that from her. I know no one in existance could or ever would love me like her, but I should not take advice from her.
YMMV - Your Mom May Vary.
It was difficult to accept but after talking with a therapist, and years of being discouraged every time I talked to her, I made the same realization and stopped telling her about most of my life. Everyone is much happier if we don’t talk about this. Otherwise she will tell me I took all the wrong decisions and that I should have stayed miserable because that’s how it works.
She (and all of her family) is afraid of pretty much everything. So as soon as you can secure a job, you keep it; for life! Even if it destroys your body or your mental, you have a job so keep it! Don’t go to school, it’s just a waste of money. Don’t look elsewhere because it’s not going to be better anyway. It’s even causing conflict in her family because one of her sister is a nurse and is “too educated”. They consider her snobbish.
It’s my mother, I love her, but I can’t tell her anything or it’s going to be worse for both of us.