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  • Discord is the worst I’ve seen. I finally found a separate plug in to make posts disappear, which is how it should be. I guess I get keeping posts fully public, but it would be nice if discord prevented the replies or tags to maybe discourage the blocked user from interacting, too. They at least prevent the emoji reactions.




  • kofe@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldA virtue I lack
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    6 months ago

    The amount of passive aggression I expressed in my teens like this was too damn high. I’ve kept my Facebook but haven’t posted in years and have been systematically hiding posts as they pop up in my memories page.

    I’m still working on it, but y’all, I suggest if you struggle like I do with people pleasing, take a day or two to consider if it is worth directly bringing up to someone. Sometimes that silence or passive aggression becomes enabling. We can’t expect people to care about hurting our feelings if we don’t learn to express that hurt in healthy ways

    Note: this only applies for those that can accept healthy communication of hurt feelings and adjust their behavior. If you communicate directly that you were hurt and the person doesn’t care, fuck em



  • Ok. I guess you think I’m being an elitist, so I just asked an LLM “What are the most popular concepts in psychology understood by the overall population, and what metrics do you use to determine that?” Chopping down the responses, I got: Cognitive Dissonance, Confirmation Bias, Personality Types (like Myers Briggs), Freud’s Psychoanalysis, Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, Behaviorism, IQ and Intelligence Testing, Positive Reinforcement, Depression and Anxiety, and Mindfulness and Meditation.

    That’s based on search engines trends, social media mentions, media representation, surveys and polls, academic citations and book sales.

    A few of those are outdated concepts, but it takes time for the general public to catch up. So, I’m not sure this supports how people in general might be skeptical of the field. It’s healthy to have some skepticism, but I was referring to people that will take one example and act like it discredits the whole field. That is some poor critical thinking that I doubt many actually believe. The same people I’ve argued with on sex/gender will also gladly talk about the benefits of some of the stuff the LLM brought up, too. There’s just a lot of societal indoctrination and sexist reasoning to try to discredit that specific theory.

    Sorry I’m going a bit into AuDHD mode here. I like talking about this stuff but if it’s too much I’ll stop







  • Being mentally unstable isn’t a character flaw. We should be encouraging everyone to get help. A good therapist knows what a delusion looks like, what the criteria are, and how to develop a relationship with the client to gently challenge them.

    I did a little deep dive on them recently when I realized I was talking to a narcissist with grandiose delusions claiming experts in sociology and such “made up” the gender/sex distinction and, whaddya know, he thinks narcissism is a made-up disorder, too. He’s been around our discord server for months and I finally popped off and posted the criteria along with how his multitude of claims fit. He understandable got pissed, but at least everyone else is aware what the criteria is now and how to walk through it themselves. (And to be clear, I only weaponized the term against him because he referred to people using neutral pronouns - such as myself, as he is well aware - delusional).

    If you hold a belief with absolute conviction that has been falsified, shown counter evidence, and it impacts your functioning in society, then you may have a delusional belief. It’s not uncommon or a big deal once you can recognize it and work out the logic.

    We really just need to be teaching psych in high schools, honestly. Destigmatize it. Ik I’m stigmatizing narcissism a bit here, so lemme add that being a narcissist doesn’t mean a person will act as abusively (if at all) as the individual I’ve been dealing with is, nor does abuse imply a mental disorder. It gets nuanced but I think it’s fascinating



  • Soft sciences in general need to be covered more in the fields OP mentioned! Psych and philosophy should be taught in high school, too. The amount of arrogant asshole STEM majors I’ve met that think experts in sociology and psychology are just making shit up is too damn high. Ironically I did a deep dive on delusions recently and it’s wild realizing that’s what some of these folks are suffering from.

    To be clear - delusions are not a character flaw. We all probably have had a few in our lifetime. The fucks I’m thinking of just push their delusions onto others and become emotionally abusive by weaponizing the term against people for shit like preferring neutral pronouns. They don’t bother to ask why someone (like me) might have the preference.

    /tangent