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  • You really couldn’t make blazing saddles today. It’s a satire that while beloved belongs to its time. You couldn’t make “Veneno” in the 70s, and not just because it’s about a woman who became famous in the 90s. When blazing saddles came out whole categories of stories were relegated to less than savory media like pulp novels.

    Also modern satire focuses on different topics because in the past 50 years a lot has changed. Even when you focus on racial issues “Get Out” is a product of a much more modern time than Blazing Saddles. And while i love Mel Brooks’s movies, I’m glad that the media about anti black racism that’s popular today is largely by black creators





  • Yeah my parents definitely tried, and a lot of their failures weren’t their fault, but others were. I’m 30 now so I’m long past the stage of blaming them for shit just to blame them. They had a lot of issues individually and even more as a couple.

    So yeah, if you have preexisting trauma or mental health issues it’s probably a good idea to get help for them earlier rather than later into being a parent. If you’ve tried everything and nothing works and your kid swears they’re trying too start looking for new things, but also love and accept your child failure and all. And dont let your love for your kid slowly fade and eventually disown them. It will ruin your relationship with all your kids even if you don’t realize it, but I suspect that’s not a thing most parents are at risk of doing lol.


  • Not believing that I was trying to do better. I was suffering from adhd (diagnosed) and depression symptoms so my tripping points were largely in my own head.

    The fact is they didn’t know how to help. The fact is I was a teenager going through shit I didn’t have the words for. We were all lost and confused. But like clockwork every report card came with a lecture to the point of me sobbing, swearing I’d do better, and eventually self harming to make it stop. But I’d be told that I had meds so I can’t blame my mental illness, and my parents had it too and no meds so they know I’m able to do it. Eventually my father got to the point of loudly giving up on me every semester.

    Idk if that helps, but yeah, it was bad enough that as an adult I’ve had a few full on flashbacks to that time, and had to spend quite a bit of effort on healing from it.








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    Honestly I’m starting to forget what feeling like a kid was like. I’m 30 and yeah I don’t have all the answers and shit, but my teenage years were defined by an internal conflict I resolved in college, my relationship with my parents (one died when I was in college the other disowned me when I was in college), and high school.

    My college years were defined by the wild shit my previous sentence said I went through at that time, as well as my studies, financial and housing struggles, and a relationship that ended less than a year after I graduated, and I moved away from my hometown after college.

    I’m 30, I’m married, I’ve continued growing as a person my whole life and have no intent to stop now, my financial struggles are those of an adult of my generation with a decent career. I don’t really have any of the same problems I had as a kid except like my health and disability issues. Sometimes I have traumatic flashbacks to my teenage years but I haven’t had one in years. My interests have even matured. Sure I still don’t have all the answers, but anyone who says they do is lying to you and possibly themselves, and they may be trying to take advantage of you. I’m not a kid pretending to be an adult, I’m a person, and it turns out kids are too.


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    Yeah i have a background in human factors engineering and something like that is just asking for unsafe driving. If it can wait until you aren’t driving then all you should see of it is a little notification telling you fo check it when needed.





  • So here’s what you’re gonna do. You test. And you spread factual information. Oh and you protest. Good news is people won’t be frothing at the mouth celebrating your death, getting folks to not celebrate us dying was like half the battle.

    Oh and an old prostitute once told me that after enough of her friends died she just broke and walked to another city (like days of walking distance). It’s not a good plan A, but don’t throw the idea out prematurely