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  • GaMEChld@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldIt's pure coincidence
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    22 days ago

    Why would you marry a bad spouse? You should figure that out before you marry them.

    How about this, what’s the point of marriage? If it can be discarded at a whim, what does it mean in the first place?

    I mean the problem with this entire discussion is marriage has no standard meaning anymore. Traditionalists think of it as a sacred vow, taking till Death do us part very seriously. Others think of it as some irrelevant social construct and an excuse to have a party.

    I’m in the camp of it’s forever or it it’s pointless. Life is change. People change. The work that goes into marriage is the work of ensuring you grow together, not grow apart. I wouldn’t marry anyone that didn’t agree.

    I guess that’s the bottom line. Make sure you both define marriage the same way before you get married. Which sounds obvious but… ::gestures around::



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    24 days ago

    Well personally, I think the vows you make when you marry should be treated as a contract. I mean it sounds as much like a verbal contract as can possibly exist. Which would make the person who breaks the contract the person at fault.

    You may as well say we should get rid of all contracts in general instead of trying to find someone to blame in the event of breach. A noble sentiment, but not particularly practical.


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    24 days ago

    That’s a problem solving mentality. Some women are not interested in solving problems, they are interested in being excited. The high divorce rate increases with gay female couples and decreases with gay male couples.

    Wouldn’t it be worse to trap someone in a relationship that they aren’t enjoying?

    What you call trapped, I call commitment. We may as well just not get married then, to do the women the great honor of not trapping them. Especially if there is no upside for men.

    I don’t define love by feelings in my tummy, I define it by the actions you take to put someone’s needs ahead of your own. Feelings change by the year, by the week, by the day, by the moment. No stable family will survive if it simply operates based on the whims of emotions.


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    24 days ago

    No fault divorce? Just that women initiate 70% of divorces, and they can divorce for any reason, including boredom. And then those other things I mentioned generally come into play next.

    A lot of men are staying away from marriage now, and the sentiment I keep hearing is “why would I enter into a legal contract where one party is rewarded for breaking it?”